Is Crack Kosher?
Apr. 4th, 2004 03:46 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
theyellowhobbitSo I got absolutely no sleep on Thursday night [and still managed to make minyan and not cut classes]
So one of my friends [who has asked to remain anonymous, though all involved in this know who they are] has been having a lot of issues lately. On Monday night I called him, and we ended up talking until 2:30 am. 2 of my other friends wanted him to open up, but they'd be dealing with so many issues that I didn't think it was a good idea. Then when I talked to him, I KNEW it was a horrible idea for them, especially the female one, to be baking down his emotional walls.
Ok. I have to give them fake names so the pronouns don't get confusing. This is really funny. I always use real names. Oh well, there's a first time for everything.
Han=my friend with problems
Leah= my female friend trying to help
Luke=male friend trying to help
So it comes out that Han [oh the Freudian irony!] likes Leah, and i guessed as much last weekend. he didn't tell me at first, and was just saying how it was too complex to just tell the girl in question that he liked her. I didn't know why, but Leah's personality explains it. It totally put him off guard, because he's gone a long time without feeling emotions, and when they get out of control, it's bad. Apparently. This kind of reminds me of Sean.
Anyways, I said "is it Leah?" and he was basically like "Holy fuck" [though not in those words].
Tuesday I was going to warn leah not to have her and luke break down han's emotional walls. Bit I didn;t have a chance to, and I'll always feel a bit of regret for the fact that I might have prevented a catastrophe.
And wednesday he tells her how he feels, cause she kind of pulled it out of him. I don't think it was really him, though. I don't think their personalities go together so well. Han is a bit clingy, though not overly, and puts his heart into love. Leah likes space. I warned Han. I really do think he wouldn't've been rejected if it had been some other girl.
Then again, Han is always so negative. Like the way I used to be, only a lot worse, because he's more consistent about it. I've learned that it is in no way attractive to always be saying "no person of the opposite sex will ever like me" because 1. it's not true [even my stalker boy once had a girlfriend] and 2. if someone did like you back, you may just construe it as pity from them having heard you say this over and over again. or maybe a need to prove something. Either way it doesn't come out good.
So Thursday after dinner I talk to Hans for the hour and a half we have till the Shabbatones concert. I ended up being late, but the concert rocked.
The conversation consisted of me trying to convince hans not to be so negative, at least out loud, though I know in a way it's of no use. I was trying to go find his irrational beliefs and use a little cognative therapy, but he would never let me get that far. That and I don't know cognitive therapy. So I was then just trying to make him feel better about himself, and told him about a lot of my experiences. At least he had someone talking to him. I don't know what will actually help.
The story doesn't end here. There's a second part to my post.
So one of my friends [who has asked to remain anonymous, though all involved in this know who they are] has been having a lot of issues lately. On Monday night I called him, and we ended up talking until 2:30 am. 2 of my other friends wanted him to open up, but they'd be dealing with so many issues that I didn't think it was a good idea. Then when I talked to him, I KNEW it was a horrible idea for them, especially the female one, to be baking down his emotional walls.
Ok. I have to give them fake names so the pronouns don't get confusing. This is really funny. I always use real names. Oh well, there's a first time for everything.
Han=my friend with problems
Leah= my female friend trying to help
Luke=male friend trying to help
So it comes out that Han [oh the Freudian irony!] likes Leah, and i guessed as much last weekend. he didn't tell me at first, and was just saying how it was too complex to just tell the girl in question that he liked her. I didn't know why, but Leah's personality explains it. It totally put him off guard, because he's gone a long time without feeling emotions, and when they get out of control, it's bad. Apparently. This kind of reminds me of Sean.
Anyways, I said "is it Leah?" and he was basically like "Holy fuck" [though not in those words].
Tuesday I was going to warn leah not to have her and luke break down han's emotional walls. Bit I didn;t have a chance to, and I'll always feel a bit of regret for the fact that I might have prevented a catastrophe.
And wednesday he tells her how he feels, cause she kind of pulled it out of him. I don't think it was really him, though. I don't think their personalities go together so well. Han is a bit clingy, though not overly, and puts his heart into love. Leah likes space. I warned Han. I really do think he wouldn't've been rejected if it had been some other girl.
Then again, Han is always so negative. Like the way I used to be, only a lot worse, because he's more consistent about it. I've learned that it is in no way attractive to always be saying "no person of the opposite sex will ever like me" because 1. it's not true [even my stalker boy once had a girlfriend] and 2. if someone did like you back, you may just construe it as pity from them having heard you say this over and over again. or maybe a need to prove something. Either way it doesn't come out good.
So Thursday after dinner I talk to Hans for the hour and a half we have till the Shabbatones concert. I ended up being late, but the concert rocked.
The conversation consisted of me trying to convince hans not to be so negative, at least out loud, though I know in a way it's of no use. I was trying to go find his irrational beliefs and use a little cognative therapy, but he would never let me get that far. That and I don't know cognitive therapy. So I was then just trying to make him feel better about himself, and told him about a lot of my experiences. At least he had someone talking to him. I don't know what will actually help.
The story doesn't end here. There's a second part to my post.
